The people around you shape who you are. “If you want to grow in wisdom, spend time with the wise”. If you want to make new friends, then join Social Vibes 215. You’re the average of the 6 closes people in your life. The real goal is to join a culture where your desired behavior is normal. You will have a much harder time being a painter if none of your friends are painters. Hang out with writers and you may find yourself publishing a book. Find a group of like-minded friends who identify with your ideal self. Shared identity will reinforce your personal identity.
Question: Do your friends reinforce your desired self-identity?